Never ! Never ! Never Give-up !!

There is a famous story about a gold miner. He bought a mine and started digging. He dug a thousand feet, there was no sign of gold. He dug another thousand feet, still no gold. He went up to three thousand feet and there was no trace of gold. Frustrated and exasperated he Gave-up. He sold the mine and the entire machinery at an exorbitantly low price to another miner. The other miner just dug three feet and he struck gold.

This is what happens to most of us. We give-up without knowing how close we are to success. Ask  any Mountaineer, he will tell you that the climb to the peak is the toughest and most of the climbers give-up at the final stage. The same is with us, whether it is our job, money, health or relationship. We want to lose weight or just be fit. We join a gym and are regular for 10-15 days. Then when we don’t see the expected improvement we give-up. This is one of the main reasons why obesity is spreading like an epidemic. 

We invest our whole life in a relationship and when it starts getting sour, instead of trying to mend it we take the easier route of breaking it. The greatest number of cases today in the courts are that of divorce. The story repeats itself for the younger lot who are trying for the job. They try at a few places but rejection gets too tough for them to handle and they give-up trying. Entrepreneurs dream of having their big company but when their first few ventures fail they give-up on their most cherished dream and start looking for a job. 

The difference between a successful man and the one who has failed is that the successful man has failed more number of times than the failed person has even tried. Let us see why most of us give-up. Most of us over-estimate our ability to achieve things and under-estimate the time to achieve it. Stated simply we have unrealistic expectation of ourselves. Losing 15 kgs in a month is possible but is it realistic for you?  Turning a new venture into a billion dollar company or turning a flawed relationship into a beautiful one within a short time are the same. Learn from nature. Everything takes time. There is a reason and a season for everything to happen, have patience.

Everything that we think or do is recorded in our sub-conscious mind like a tape. Whenever we start a new habit as simple as getting-up in the morning, the tape comes in the way. It wants you to adhere to your earlier habit of over-sleeping. You have to take over controls and show that you are more powerful than the tape and jump out of bed. The same thing happens when you start a new diet/gym routine, a new venture or a new relationship. You should always know whether you or the tape is in control. Once you know, it is easy to take over. 

Before Success comes to us, it tantalizes us. It tests us whether we are worthy of it or not. You must have witnessed it that you will have a series of things going in your favour and suddenly everything dries out. Most of the time it happens because success gets into our heads and we become arrogant, forgetting to be humble. We do not show the basic courtesy to our partners, clients, customers, colleagues and our bosses. We don’t even treat ourselves properly, getting into some self-defeating behaviour like envying the successful and the rich people. The moment we get into competitive plane, comparing ourselves with others or other companies we lose touch with our creative selves. And to be successful we have to be creative. The only competition we have is with ourselves, always.

In spite of all the gyan, there will a time when you really want to throw in the towel, raise your hands in exasperation and want to give-up. Remember the night is the darkest before the dawn. Any successful person will tell you that he had faced such moments too. But they had a vision of their larger picture and were ready to pay the price. Ruben Gonzales, a four-time Olympic Gold Medallist says, “I am not a big shot, I am a small shot who just kept taking shots.” Success will come to you if you have a die-hard attitude, have infinite patience and if you Never ! Never ! Never Give-up.